Tuesday, December 3, 2013

'Hello, My Name Is . . . ' -- a Sermon by Sal DiBianca of Sandhills Teen Challenge


Debby and Sal DiBianca 

Sal DiBianca led worship and preached during three services held at Grace Church in Southern Pines, N.C., on Sunday morning, October 13, 2013.
Sal and his wife, Debby, serve as campus directors of Sandhills Teen Challenge, a “men’s recovery home” which is part of Teen Challenge International. Sandhills Teen Challenge (STC) is a residential faith-based recovery program for men ages 18-and-over with drug or alcohol problems. The STC campus sits on over 31 acres of beautiful wooded land in Carthage, N.C.
Sal and around 25 men representing the STC choir, along with Debby, performed the song “Forgiveness,” written and recorded by Matthew West. That song contains these words: “Show me how to love the unlovable / Show me how to reach the unreachable / Help me now to do the impossible / Forgiveness / Forgiveness.”
Here are more words to that song: “It’ll clear the bitterness away / It can even set a prisoner free / There is no end to what its power can do / So let it go, and be amazed / By what you see through eyes of grace / The prisoner that it really frees is you / Forgiveness.”
“The centerpiece of the Gospel is forgiveness,” Sal said.
He noted that STC has been a “mission of Grace Church” and that Teen Challenge began in 1958 and was founded by David Wilkerson, a pastor from Pennsylvania, who “read a Life Magazine, and God impressed him to help some people.”
Wilkerson worked in the New York City streets.    
“The first Teen Challenge facility was located at 444 Clinton Ave., Brooklyn, N.Y., where people addicted to drugs and alcohol could find freedom through the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Amen,” Sal said. “Over the years, Teen Challenge has become one of the largest ministries of its kind. There are over 250 centers around the U.S. that help men and women, boys and girls who have been caught in addiction to walk out of darkness into light and freedom.”  
There are 500 TC centers around the world.
“With over 22 million substance abusers in the U.S., alone, how many of you know we have a huge mission field?” Sal asked. “Come on, wave at me, if you know we’re telling the truth. And, you know, with prescription pill addition out of control and everything else that is going on, we have a huge mission field.”
He thanked God for allowing him and STC to be part of what God is doing.
“I just want to say, ‘Thank you, Jesus,” Sal said. “My wife and I came to North Carolina 27 years ago and planted and piloted a Teen Challenge right here in Moore County – which you give [contribute] to, and I just want to say, ‘Thank you.’”
Many men have processed through STC, he said.   
“We’ve actually seen thousands and thousands of men come to our campus and their lives be absolutely changed and transformed by the power of the Gospel,” Sal said. “And how many of you know that when one person gets changed, it influences the family? . . . Just like addiction is far-reaching and doesn’t just hurt the person that is in the addiction but also influences and affects the family. So does recovery and so does faith in Jesus Christ. So, we’ve seen countless men come to our campus and accept Jesus as their Savior . . . and become followers of Christ. And then their families become followers as well. . . . It’s just amazing what God can do when one person makes a decision.”
He referred to Debby.
“My beautiful wife is here with me,” he said. “Her name is Debby, and would you show her how much you appreciate her coming and being with us this morning?”
Applause.
“That is awesome,” Sal said, smiling.  
He noted that people may become volunteers with Teen Challenge in many ways.
“Everybody say, ‘Teen Challenge,’” Sal said. “That’s good. You’re looking up here, and there’s not a teen in the bunch. You may be wondering, like, what is the deal? Teen Challenge? The name was started years ago, but things have changed. And not only does TC help people find freedom out of addiction, and obviously we’re a men’s home – 18 [years old] and up – but we have adolescent homes scattered across the U.S. and around the world to help people 13 to 17 years old who have been caught in addiction – you know, [help them] walk out of that through discipleship, and also, we speak in public schools. In fact, last week, I was in Little Washington and did seven schools and challenged students to say ‘No’ to drugs. Come on, everybody say, ‘Good job.’ Yeah.”
An ounce of prevention is worth a pound of cure, he said.
“Maybe we should build some fences and some guardrails, so students don’t jump off and have to come to a Teen Challenge. Right?” he said. “And so there were about 3,000 students I addressed personally last week, and about 450 came out to a rally on Saturday night at a hosting church . . . and many of those students came and responded to Jesus Christ and surrendered their lives as they heard the rest of the story.”
Applause.
“I just want you to know I’m saying all these things to say this: that when you give to Teen Challenge and you pray for us, that’s when you’re a part of people’s lives being transformed and you’re a part of promoting and advancing the kingdom of God and the Gospel of Christ. So, thank you so much.”
He asked two men, singers in the STC choir, to speak. 
“I’m going to have some of the guys come and share their stories and tell you where the Lord has brought them from and how’s he taken them out of addiction and out of darkness,” Sal said. “So, if you’d do me a favor and just say, ‘Hello, Alec.’ This is Alec; he’s going to come and tell you his story.”
Applause.
Alec walked to the main microphone. 

Here is Alec’s testimony, told in his own words:

 

Hi, there. My name is Alec. I’m 23 years, and I’m from High Point, N.C. Ever since I surrendered my life to Jesus, he delivered me from eight years of drug addiction to alcohol, to methamphetamines, and to marijuana. And, you know, growing up, I made all the wrong decisions. I always made mistakes. My failures defined my life. I was a troublemaker. I was rebellious. And part of that was due to ’cause I never knew my father.

My father was a drug addict, so he was never in my life. And I never had anyone to look up to or learn from, which led me to become very insecure, and I lacked identity as to who I was. And I grew up in a very undisciplined and an unstructured environment, and no one forced me or no one required me to go to church, so I did not go to church, and I did not have a relationship with God, at all, growing up.


And I began to get in trouble with the law, with the police. I was arrested the first time at the age of 13 years old, and I began to use drugs. I began to smoke weed and to drink alcohol at the age of 14 years old, I was a freshman in high school. And my drug use just progressed, and whenever I was 17 years old. I dropped out of high school, and I was kicked out of my house because of my behavior. At the age of 17 years old, I assaulted my stepfather, and the police were called. And I was told never to return to my home. And it was at that point in my life that my drug addiction just took over every area of my life, every aspect of my life. I was controlled by my drug use. I woke up in the morning wanting to get high, and I couldn’t go to sleep unless I was high. Drugs just took over my life. And in my addiction, I had no hope. I had no reason to keep on going.

I always felt I know what it’s like to fail. I know what it’s like to quit. I know what it’s like to make a mistake. Those mistakes defined my life. I know what it’s like to have a seizure because I smoked too much meth. I know what it’s like to be homeless. I know what it’s like to take a shower in a swimming pool because I have nowhere else to take a shower, early in the morning, so people wouldn’t see me. I know what it’s like to have no hope. The fear and the guilt and the shame just controlled my life. It held me in bondage. It was the fuel that fed my addiction. And in my addiction, I had this distorted attitude that to live was to pursue everything that the world had to offer . . . for “to live” was to get high, to party, to listen to rock and roll and rap music and to pursue the lifestyle and behavior that was promoted through their songs and through their lyrics. To live was to have sex. To live was to party and just live a rebellious lifestyle. I did whatever I wanted to do, whenever I wanted to do it, however I wanted to do it. I was lost, and it wasn’t until my enrollment in Sandhills Teen Challenge, it wasn’t until I surrendered my life to Jesus Christ in Sandhills Teen Challenge that God delivered me. And he didn’t deliver me only from drug addition, but also from that seductive and destructive attitude by which I lived my life. Because Jesus Christ set me free, and because of that, because of the Holy Spirit who was at work inside of me, I can now identify with Paul who said in Philippians 1:21: “For to me to live is Christ and to die is gain.” And I now have a purpose in life. I now have a hope in life.

Applause.

And I now have a reason to keep on going and to not give up. And that purpose, that hope, and that reason that I have, that I found, is Jesus Christ. A relationship with Jesus Christ is the most important thing to me, now. Jesus reached out in my mess and he saved my life. He changed my life. He transformed my mind. He renewed my mind through his word. He’s given me new attitudes and a new way of thinking, new patterns of thinking. He’s given me a new heart. And with new desires, with new passions, and I’m no longer a drug addict, but I am a child of God. You know, Paul said in Second . . .

[applause interrupted him] – Yeah! – [more applause] 

You know, I also like to live my life by this verse, too. Paul said in Second Corinthians, chapter five, verse 17: “For if anyone be in Christ, he is a new creation. The old has gone, and the new has come.” And, you know, I am in Christ, and I am a new creation. I’m no longer a drug addict. I’m no longer a liar. I’m no longer a thief. I’m no longer a failure. I’m no longer a mistake. I have an identity, and my identity is in Jesus Christ. I’ve been redeemed. I’ve been bought with the price, and that price is the blood of Jesus. And I no longer belong to the world, but I belong to Jesus Christ, and I now have a father. I’ve found a father. He’s in heaven, and I’m his son, and I’m not going back to that lifestyle that I used to live in, because he saved me, and he changed me.

Applause.

You know, God’s just doing miraculous things in my life. He’s changed me so much. I’ve learned how to give and . . . I’ve always taken; I was always so selfish, but he’s taught me how to give and how to love and how to be content. The only thing that I need is Jesus, man, and as long as I have Jesus, I’m OK, I’m good.

And so I completed the program and completed Teen Challenge, and I felt God calling me into fulltime ministry, and he made a way for me to come to Sandhills Teen Challenge to serve. And I’m in a position of leadership, and I’m just so blessed. It’s such an honor and a privilege to be able to give back what was given to me – to serve under Sal, and everything. I’m learning so much, it’s just crazy. Everything that I’ve learned is just preparing me for the road that is ahead. God has a calling on my life, and he’s grooming me, right now. And I’m learning just how to be a man of God and everything that I’m learning is just preparing me, equipping me for the calling that God has on my life. And, you know, Jesus said in Matthew, chapter five, “You are the light of the world. A city that is built on a hill cannot be hidden.” And I want that verse that Jesus said to be a reality in my life. I want my life to burn bright for Jesus. I want my life to be a beacon of hope that people who are living in darkness, who have no hope, who are miserable, can be drawn to me, so that they can experience the same thing that I experienced. And that is Jesus. And that desire in itself just shows you how much God has changed my life, because that desire is not my own, but that is from God. My testimony is a story of God’s grace and of the freedom that is found through a relationship with Jesus Christ. And I’m just so thankful that he saved me and he changed me, and I’m going to live the rest of my life for Jesus. And thank you for letting me share.

Applause.

Sal led the choir in singing, “Show me how to love the unlovable / Show me how to reach the unreachable / Show me how to do the impossible / Forgiveness.”
“Why don’t we say, ‘Good job, Alec,’” Sal said.
Applause.
“Why don’t we say, ‘Good job, Jesus,’” Sal said. “He’s working in Alec’s life, amen?”
Sal introduced the next speaker.
“This is Garret. Everybody say, ‘Hey, Garret.’”
Garret, tall and young, walked to the microphone. 

Here is his testimony in his own words:

Hi, I’m Garrett. I’m 21 and from Southern Pines [N.C.]. God has delivered me from a 5-year prescription-drug pill addiction, an alcohol addiction, a marijuana addiction. God’s delivered me from so much.

Growing up, I grew up in a great home. My parents more that provided for my needs. They were so loving and generous in giving, and they just cared for me so much. I didn’t really grow up in church. I never really knew Jesus as a child. But . . . my parents just showed me so much love all throughout my childhood. I never really experienced drug use until I got into high school and I started smoking marijuana for the first time at age 15 . . . and I don’t really know the reason for that. I think I was seeking acceptance, and, you know, I drank in high school but I used some drugs. I wasn’t fully addicted until at age 18, I lost a best friend of mine. He died, and my addiction . . . prescription pills just grabbed hold of my life and just took hold of every aspect of my life and changed who I was into something I didn’t know before. It just changed me into basically a monster. And I just, I ended up, you know, I just spiraled out of control. I couldn’t get out of bed in the morning and go throughout the day without “using” first, to feel normal and to feel like I could talk to people and just to not be in pain.

I ended up in jail quite a few times. I tried secular rehabs to get rid of my prescription pill addiction, but none of that worked. And the sole reason is because I didn't have Jesus when I was going through that. I didn’t know Jesus, and I didn’t have a relationship with God through him.

I found myself in a prison cell at the beginning of this year. And I thought that was who I was going to be the rest of my life. I thought I was going to be defined as the drug addict, defined as the loser, just defined as somebody who was basically worthless to society and viewed that way from so many different viewpoints. God touched me in that prison cell. He came in and brought me out of that space of just awfulness and brought me here. He made a way for me to come to Teen Challenge and be under Sal and Mrs. Debby and just Alec and great people, mighty men of God, and just role models for me and people like that just to show how to live. He has made me a new creation, and he’s just helped me in so many ways. He’s brought my family back together. He’s shown me so much love. He’s shown me that I actually can be forgiven and even accepted for who I am. And I just can’t wait to see what else he has in store for me. Thank you for letting me share.

Applause.

Sal led in singing, “Show me how to love the unlovable / Show me how to reach the unreachable / Help me now to do the impossible / Forgiveness.”
“Lots of forgiveness need, amen?” he said.
“Everybody say, ‘Good job, Garrett,’” Sal said.
The audience responded with “Good job, Garrett” and applause. 
“We’ve just had all kinds of great things happening on our campus and off our campus in all the different outreaches and things that have been going on,” Sal said.
Sal introduced each member of the STC choir. Each man gave his name, age and what the Lord delivered him from.
One man, age 25, said God delivered him from a 10-year addition; a 31-year-old man from Pennsylvania said he was delivered from a 15-year drug and alcohol addiction; a 20-year-old Georgia man spoke of deliverance from an opium addiction.
A Georgia man had a 10-year heroin addiction; a 29-year-old had a 5-year opiate addiction. The list went on: a 33-year-old from Ohio; a N.C. man had a pain-killer and alcohol addiction; a Pennsylvania man said he was saved from a 4-year heroin addiction; a 25-year-old man from Chicago said he was delivered from a 5-year alcohol addiction; a 25-year-old man from Raleigh (N.C.) said God delivered him from “himself” and a 15-year alcohol and drug addiction. A N.C. man said he sold and used drugs for 15 years; a N.C. man had a crack cocaine and heroin addiction; a Charlotte, N.C., man said God delivered him for a pill addiction, a steroid addiction and an eating disorder; a 20-year-old New Hampshire man said God delivered him from heroin and cocaine abuse; 33-year-old Raleigh man delivered from cocaine and alcohol; a man from Virginia said God delivered him “from all sorts of things, plus five hears of heroin.”
Applause.
“Hello, My Name Is,” Sal said. He noted that his message (titled “Names Define Who We Are”) would be about that phrase.
Sal said, “About two years ago, Matthew West, who wrote the song ‘Forgiveness’ that we sang a few minutes ago, actually put a request out to all of his followers on radio to ‘send me your story because I’m a storyteller and that’s how I write my songs.’ He thought he was going to get a couple of hundred responses, and he actually got 25,000 responses from people sending him their stories.”
Everybody has a story, Sal said.
“Out of those 25,000 stories, he [Matthew West] got a story from a guy named Jordan, whose father is a pastor in Tennessee,” Sal said. “And somehow, Jordan actually wound up on our campus, and has actually been in Grace Church before. And Matthew West wrote a song about Jordan’s story.”
Sal played a video showing Jordan Jeffers and the songwriter Matthew West interacting in that video. You can see that video at this site: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zl9KcbtUbrM
 Jordan Jeffers was a star athlete and a 7-time College All-American in track. After he broke an ankle while playing college football, he developed an addiction to “prescription Oxycontin” and ended up at Sandhills Teen Challenge. He completed the TC program, returned to the college he was expelled from and graduated and became a high school coach. He is now married and has a call to preach on his life. Read about Jordan Jeffers story at www.jordanjeffersatpinecrest.blogspot.com.

“So many people we find on the road of life are in dire straits and in need of God to do miraculous things,” Sal said. “And this morning as we look at what you’ve heard from the Teen Challenge choir and then from Matthew West’s song, and Jordan’s story, names define us. I’ll never forget an old saying, ‘Sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me.’ But how many of you know that words really do hurt?”
He said that people sometimes “speak things over our lives” that get planted in our spirits and in our hearts.
“It actually could become what defines us,” Sal said. “It’s so good to know that in Christ we don’t have to live by what our past has defined us to, but we can actually be defined by the very nature of and the very gospel of God.”
He prayed, “Father, We love you so much, and we’re so grateful for your Holy Word. It is hope, and it is life. You know, it’s food for our souls. We just want to say “Thank You” for that. Thank you for what we’ve heard this morning from the choir and the message of hope that comes through the testimony of lives that have been changed and transformed. Now, Lord, we pray that you would take all of that and knit it together, and as we look to your Word, that you would spark faith in us for a new day. And that this morning in this service, that there would be something new that would happen in us. We pray that you would give us ears to hear what the Spirit of the Lord would say through your Holy Word, and that you would touch us and change us forever for your glory and your honor, alone. For we ask it in the matchless name of Jesus Christ, the strong Son of God. Amen.

Here is Sal DiBianca’s message in his own words:

This morning I’m reading from Mark, chapter 10, starting at verse 46. Some of you may know this story. It’s about a man named Bartimaeus.   
Mark 10:46: “Now they came to Jericho, and as they went out of Jericho, with his disciples and a great multitude, blind Bartimaeus, the son of Timaues, sat by the roadside, begging.
“And when he had heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he began to cry out and say, ‘Jesus, son of David, have mercy on me.”
By the way, as I read this passage of Scripture, I just think about how many times I’m on the Road of Life and I’m encountering people, just in everyday activities, and how many times I run into people who are damaged and bruised and abused and hopeless, and how much we as the Church have the hope of Christ that is within us, that could change and transform and intersect with somebody’s life, and take their circumstances and actually change them, just because of the hope and the faith that we have in God.”
[He resumed reading.]
“And when he had heard that it was Jesus of Nazareth, he cried out, saying, ‘Jesus, son of David, have mercy on me.’
“And they warned him and tried to quiet him down, but he cried out all the more, ‘Son of David, have mercy on me.’”
How many of you have ever had someone try to quiet you about your faith? Can I encourage you? Can I just encourage you? Don’t be ashamed of your faith in Jesus Christ but stand strong. How many of you know if you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything?
Hey, it’s time for the church to stand up, not only verbally, but by the way that we live our lives – that our lives would be models that people could see the very acts of God in who we are on a daily basis.
When he cried out, “Son of David have mercy on me,” something happened that’s very significant. And I want you to know that when you cry out to God, when you cry out to Jesus, he takes notice.
The next verse says this: “So Jesus stood still.”
This is a person who’s desperate; a person who’s hopeless cries out to Jesus, the Son of God stands still and recognizes this person. He stopped and he commanded he be called to him. Verse 49 says, “And so they called the blind man, saying to him, ‘Be of good cheer and rise, for he is calling you.’”
You know, can I just stop for a minute and just say this: You know, when you cry out to God, he is going to answer you. He is going to stop and take notice of you. And, by the way, he’s calling you and me, this morning, to be near to him and be dear to him, and to be one of his own. He’s calling you.
Verse 50 says this: “And throwing aside his garment, he arose and he came to Jesus.”
Now I don’t get that one. I don’t know how a blind man would be able to find his way, but it says it in the Scripture, so it must be true. Everybody say “amen.”
He throws aside his garment, and he makes his way to Jesus. And so Jesus answers him and said – and here’s a big question this morning – “What do you want me to do for you?”
“And the blind man said to him, ‘Rabboni, that I might receive my sight.’”
“And Jesus said to him, ‘Go you way. Your faith has made you well.’ And immediately, he received his sight and followed Jesus down the road.”
Now, I just want to bring out a couple of truths to you this morning from this passage of Scripture. And I want you to know that first of all that names define people. And here, as we look at Bartimaeus’ name – see in the original Hebrew, “Bar” actually means “son of” and “Timaeus” is his father’s name; who he is named after was like a the prophecy over his life. And “Timaeus” actually means “to be fouled” or to be molested or to be abused or to be known as notorious, not for good but for evil.
And so, here, when Bartimaeus was actually named, it was almost like the prophecy of this life. But I want you to know that God doesn’t want you to be defined by your name this way or by names people have called you, but God wants you to find your identity in who he’s called you to be.     
[Verse 51 – Bartimaeus lost his sight during his lifetime; he wasn’t blind from birth.]
Somewhere on the road of life, he lost his physical eyesight, and in losing his physical eyesight, he lost his vision. He lost his vision for life. . . . He lost his hopes, and he lost his dreams, and he became a beggar. And he wore a coat that identified him as a beggar. . . . God has not called you to be defined by the labels that are on you, or he doesn’t want you to be skewed in your vision, but, like Bartimaeus . . . many in this world, today, have lost their way and lost their sight. And they’ve lost their hopes and lost their dreams. I want you to know that God has an incredible plan for each and every one of you and every person that has been born and ever been born and will ever be born. And that [plan] is to become who God has called them to be.
So, listen this morning as we look at this, and we realize that Bartimaeus was kind of set up that way; I want you to see just a couple of things as we get ready to close.
Number one: that Jesus is calling you, today. He’s calling me, today, like Jordan, to say that we’re a child of the one true King.
The most important thing on the heart of God is “Are you a part of the family of God?” – whether you’ve received the free gift of eternal life through Jesus Christ.
You know, we can’t attend church enough. We can’t be good enough. There’s nothing that we could do to earn our salvation. Everything in salvation was done through Jesus Christ on the cross. And the Gospel message, this message of hope, is so simple; it’s incredible to me.
John, chapter one, verse 12: here’s what the Bible says, “For as many as received him, gave he them the power to become the children of God.”
You see, it’s not enough to believe, but we have to receive. We could attend church. We could hear the message. We could agree with it, but the bottom line all comes down to this: Did you receive what was done for you on the cross of Calvary and invite Jesus Christ – receive him – into your own life?
You know, it’s amazing to me that Jesus Christ died for the sins of the world but many people will spend an eternity separated from God because they never applied that principle to their lives.
How many of you know who the president of the United States is? Come on; wave at me. How many have seen his face before? How many have ever shook his hand, though, and actually been introduced to him? You see, that’s how some people have faith in God – it’s like “I know about God, I know Jesus’ name; I believe that he’s the Savior; but I’ve never received him and applied the truth of the sacrifice that was made on the cross of Calvary and the blood that was shed for my sins to my own life.” And that is the most important thing on the heart of God for you and me this morning. . . . Are you a child of the one true King?
And then, too, I want you to know that not only is God calling you to be one of his because, you know, ‘For God so loved the world that he gave his only begotten son’ – that means everybody . . . everybody. It’s not God’s will that any would perish but that all would come to repentance. God sent his son to die for the sins of the entire world. There is no exclusion.
And number two is that God has not called you to be his own and then to live in bondage. But he’s called you to walk in freedom and identity in Jesus Christ.
Bartimaues was a beggar. . . . and so back in that day, let me just tell you what you used to have to do as a beggar. They would actually like give you a permit. And Bartimaeus had a coat – he threw his coat off.
[Sal puts on an old, large coat with negative names written on tags pinned to that coat.]    
Just to illustrate [Sal puts on the coat at this time], that every morning Bartimaeus would get up, and he would put on this coat. It had all kinds of identity on it. You see, that was like his permit as a beggar, and when people saw him wearing this coat, it would identify that here is somebody that is licensed to beg. And can I just tell you something? There are people all around – that have even come to Christ – that still wear things from their past. They still have, like that . . . you’re an addict or you’re not accepted. If you could put some of them up there for me on the screen, so these folks could see some of the labels like “You’re not wanted” or “You’re a mistake” or “You’re a looser,” “You’re forgotten,” “You’re stupid” or “You’re a liar.”
You know, the Bible says this: “For as a man believeth in his heart, so is he.”
Now we have countless men who come to our campus who have been told things or have believed lies from the Evil One - [things] that have penetrated their spirits and become a part of who they are. And then because they believed that about themselves, that’s who they’ll be. By the way, in Teen Challenge – I appreciate Alec saying this – . . . “If any man be in Christ, he’s a new creation. Behold all things are become new. The past is gone.” Somebody say, “Let it go.”
You see . . . here’s what I want you to understand:  that I believe differently from the world. And here’s what the world will tell you to do. They’ll tell you to come into a room and sit down and say, “Hi, my name is Joe, and I’m an addict.” You know, I believe that that is contrary to the Scripture. And that if you confess that stuff over your life, that’s exactly who you’ll be. But I believe if we confess the Word of God over our lives and walk in that, we can walk out of addiction and into freedom. All these guys testified “that” just a few minutes ago, and you know what? I’m no stranger to that because I’ve been through it myself, and I’m a graduate of Teen Challenge, and my wife is a graduate of Teen Challenge. And I’ve seen the Word of God activate in my life and walk me out of addiction and remove those desires from the past, and, like Alec said, give me a desire to love God and to serve God will all my heart.
 
Sal puts on the “negative names” coat.

But here this morning, maybe you’re here and you’ve never done drugs, you’ve never done alcohol, but maybe there are things that control your life – like a coat that you’re still wearing. Maybe you’ve surrendered your life to Christ, but you’re still carrying around some things from your past. Could I tell you that God hasn’t called you to wear that coat any more, but he’s called you to take that coat off and to throw it away and to not identify with that anymore.
You know, Bartimaeus, he did something when Jesus called him to him. He threw his coat aside, and then he went to Jesus, and then something miraculous happened. But I want you to listen this morning. . . . When Jesus – another story – many of you know when Jesus’ dear friend, Lazarus, died and was dead for several days, he was in a tomb; he was dead. Jesus came to the place, and he called his dear friend from the dead.
You know, there’re people who are alive physically, but they are spiritually dead. And when you come to Christ, you become alive in a different way when the lights get turned on spiritually and you get born again. But, you know, sometimes we still have some grave clothes. And when his dear friend came out, Jesus didn’t say, “Hey, let me unwrap that for you,” but he turned to the people that were looking on, and he said, “Hey, you loose him.”
Let me peel some of the grave clothes off. Sometimes people come out of the grave, spiritually, but they still are wearing the cloak of their past. And maybe they don’t have the ability to remove it, themselves. But maybe they need somebody to help them remove the labels of their past. Could I just tell you something? God has called you to be one of his. He’s called you to be someone that walks in freedom and victory over the labels of your past. . . .
There’s something significant we see happened in this passage of Scripture. Just as Bartimaeus was asked the question, “What do you want me to do for you?” God would ask us that, this morning.
“What do you want me to do?” Not only what do you want me to do, but – let me ask you this – What do you need him to do? What are the needs in your life? Do you know that God is so intimately acquainted with everything that is going on in your life? He knows the things you are struggling with. He knows the battles of your mind and your heart. He knows your financial needs. He knows the trouble within your family. Some of you in here may have an uncle or an aunt, a brother or sister, or a father, or a daughter, or a son that is battling with addiction. Can I just tell you? If you need him [God] to step into that situation, if we cry out to God this morning, I believe that God will begin to release things in the realm of the Spirit and the miraculous and begin to deliver and set free. I just believe that with all my heart, because when you cry out to God, he stops and takes notice, and he answers. But something else happens – as I read this – but “What do you want me to do for you?” And Blind Batimaeus said, “Rabonni, that I might receive my sight.”
He told him exactly what he needed. And then Jesus said this to him, he said, “Go your way; your faith has made you well.” And immediately, it says, that he received his sight, and then he began, instead of going his own way, he began to follow Jesus Christ.
And so I want you to know this morning, number one, that God has called you to become one of his own. . . . The most important is are you a child of God, have you received the free gift of eternal life?
Number two: he’s called you to be free. Maybe today, you need some labels removed from you past. I believe that God will do that for you this morning.
But then, number three: have you become a fully devoted follower of Jesus Christ? Not just somebody who says they’re a Christian, but someone who has received that deliverance and that healing and that new identity as a child of the one true King, and then become a follower of Jesus Christ.
I want to pray with you this morning. With every head bowed and every eye closed, I just want to pray for you.
Father, I just want to say thank you so much for the truth of your Word. And I just want to say thank you for every person under the sound of my voice. How much you love them and care for them. We want to say thank you for your tender mercy and your grace.
With every head bowed and every eye closed this morning, I want to ask you this question: Are you a child of the one true King? . . . Can you say, “I’ve received Jesus Christ, and I’ve been given the power to become a child of God. I have applied what Jesus did on the cross to my own life, personally”?
 
Sal gives the message laid on his heart.

Can I just tell you that God sent us together today to tell you that he desperately loves you with an incredible passion. Every head is bowed and every eye is closed. The most important thing to God this morning is you. If you’ve never received the free gift of grace and eternal life through Jesus Christ, and this morning you’re here, and you say, “Sal, I realize that I need a savior. And this morning, I want you to pray for me because I want to want to open my heart, and I want to receive Jesus. I want to be born again by the Spirit of God, and I want to start life all over again. When this life is over, I want to spend eternity with him. Sal, that’s me; please pray for me; I need Jesus; I need a savior.”
And with nobody looking around, if that’s you this morning, will you lift your hand? Real quick, come on.
God bless you; that’s amazing. God bless you. In the back, I see your hand. God bless you. You may say, “Sal, please pray for me. I want to open my heart and receive Jesus and forgiveness of sin.” God bless you, ma’am, I see you hand over there. That’s awesome. This is like the most important part of our time together. . . . God bless you; I see your hand. That’s so sweet. Is there anybody else this morning? He loves you. God bless you, young man; that’s so commendable. He loves you with a passion. . . . We’ll wait just a minute. Is there anybody else this morning. You say, “Sal, I want to be in on that prayer. I want my name written in heaven, and I want to be a child of God.” . . . God bless you; I see you hand back there. God bless you. That’s awesome. God bless you, ma’am. That’s incredible. . . . That’s awesome.
Father, thank you for the hands that are going up to you, and they’re going up to you, and they’re reaching out to you. And I thank you that you stop and do something when we reach out to you. . . .
Put your hands down. I’m going to ask you that are here and you’ve received Christ before but this morning the condition of your soul is not where you’d like for it to be . . . you’re like a prodigal son or prodigal daughter, and you’ve kind of strayed from God. You started out and at one time you were really living for Jesus, wholeheartedly, but this morning you’re sitting in this sanctuary and you’re not liking your position. You’re like, “Sal, I need to pray because I’m like the Prodigal, and I want to come back to my Father, this morning. I’ve been away from him. Sal, that’s me.”
If that’s you, this morning, I want to pray for you. Just lift your hand, right now; nobody looking around. You say, “Sal, that’s me; I’m just kind of far from God, and I want to come back home.” . . . God bless you; that’s awesome. God bless you. . . . God bless you, ma’am; that’s awesome. I see your hand; that’s amazing. He loves you. He just opens his arms and waits for us to run back home when we get astray. You know, just like Bartimaeus lost his sight, got off track, you know. He loves you this morning. I’m going to ask something else this morning. You’re here this morning and this message has spoken specifically to you . . . there’s been some labels, some things placed on you by other people – things that you’ve done, or you’ve believed lies from the Evil One. And there’s been some nametags that you’ve been carrying around that you need to let go of this morning. You say, “Sal, that’s me this morning. I need God to remove those labels of my past and to seal my identity in being a child of God. Sal, will you pray for me?” If that’s you – nobody’s looking around – lift your hand right now. Come on, all over this place. . . . That is awesome.
Lord, you see all the hands that are going up, and I pray that by the Spirit of God that you would begin to break the shackles of people’s past labels and that you would deliver and set them free this morning, once and for all. I pray that their identity would be found in being a child of God and that they would walk above the lies of the Evil One and the things that they have been named in the past. In Jesus’ name, I pray. 
Put your hands down. I want to ask you one more thing, this morning. You’re here and you say, “Sal, I’m either struggling with addiction or I have somebody in my family or near to me that struggles with alcohol or prescription pills or crack cocaine or heroin. Sal, would you please pray for my family? Lift your hand, right now, wherever you are. That is awesome. All over this place.
Lord, you see all the hands that are going up, and they represent people, and they represent names, and so, right now, we ask in the name of Jesus that you would go beyond time and space and that you would do something miraculous in bringing deliverance in the lives of the people whose hands are being represented right now. And Father, we’ll be careful to give you the praise. In Jesus’ name, I pray. Amen.
Will you stand to your feet with me for just a minute? And if you guys [in the technical room] would put the new names up there, the identity with Christ [names]. . . .
(The technical crew projected on the auditorium screen these words: “Hello, My Name Is . . . Saved, New, Delivered, Free, Hope, Faith Victorious, Winner, Blessed, Forgiven” and other words.)  
I’m going to ask you to do something. . . . If you would just grab the hand of the person next to you, just stretch right across the aisles, just grab hold of somebody’s hand, there; will you do that? We’re just going to pray together. If you would bow your heads and close your eyes . . . if everybody in the place would just pray this prayer with me, just say, “God, I believe in you, today. Your love is real in this place. I believe that Jesus is the Son of God. I believe that he died on the cross for the sins of the world. I believe that he died on the cross for me. Jesus, today, I ask you to come into my life. I receive you. And I ask you to cleanse me of my sin and forgive me of my past. Please wash me and make me new. And give me a new start in life. Thank you for forgiving me. Thank you for loving me. And thank you for making me a child of God. Jesus, today, I surrender my life to you. I ask you to take control from this moment forward. I give you my life so that I can have yours. Now help me to live for you all the rest of my days. And I will be careful to give you the praise. I am forgiven of my sins. I am born again. I am a child of God. My name is written in heaven. I have eternal life. When this life is over, I will spend eternity with God the Father, God the Son, and God the Holy Spirit. Thank you for saving me. Thank you for forgiving me. I am a child of the one true King. In Jesus’ name I pray. Amen.

Saturday, October 19, 2013

Sex Trafficking -- 'Changing Destinies' in North Carolina Presents 'Break Every Chain' Event


(Special thanks to David Sinclair, managing editor of The Pilot newspaper in Southern Pines NC for some information in this article.)

 “Human Trafficking is the recruitment, transportation, transfer, harboring or receipt of persons. Acts include prostitution of others, sexual exploitation, forced labor, slavery or similar practices, and the removal of organs.” 


Sandy Stewart stepped to a microphone and welcomed a crowd of around 250 people (which included speakers and vendors) to the “Break Every Chain” event held at 7:00 p.m., Saturday, Oct. 12, 2013, at Sandhills Community College’s Owens Auditorium in Pinehurst (Moore County), N.C.

The event, sponsored by Changing Destinies Ministry (www.changingdestinies.org) of Seven Lakes, was designed “to create awareness of sex trafficking, a fast-growing crime.”

Changing Destinies was co-founded by Kym Nixon, president, and Sandy Stewart, vice president.
Kym Nixon (pictured) 
 
Nixon, a wife, mother of four daughters and grandmother of four grandchildren, has a Masters degree in education. She is a 24-year U.S. Navy veteran who now works as a civilian “contract instructor” for the army. In October 2012, she began to feel a profound calling on her life to be involved with the “abolition movement,” she says.
Sandy Stewart (pictured) speaks at the Break Every Chain event.
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 Sandy Stewart, a wife and a mother of a son and a daughter, has a business degree and is owner/broker of Sandhill Realty. She also serves as corporate secretary and marketing Director for Stewart Construction & Development. She says her passion and commitment to help educate and raise awareness in the fight against sex trafficking “grew out of maternal love and involvement.” She watched her daughter and two of her daughter’s friends initiate a campaign to raise awareness on the college campus of Queens University of Charlotte, N.C., she says.
Stewart welcomed “abolition partners” to the event. (A list of those partners is included at the end of this article.) She thanked Seven Lakes Baptist Church of West End, N.C., for sponsoring the “Break Every Chain” event.
Sheriff Neil Godfrey (pictured) speaks at the Break Every Chain event.  

Neil Godfrey, sheriff of Moore County, N.C., spoke to the gathering.
It really can happen anywhere,” Godfrey said. “As your sheriff, let me express my appreciation for the work you are doing. I assure you we will support you in your efforts.”

The Seven Lakes Freedom Band led by Rachel Stewart presented worship songs interspersed throughout the evening’s program.
The band sang choruses such as one containing these words: “Chains be broken / Lives be healed / Eyes be opened / Christ revealed. . . . ”

The audience viewed “Does Anybody Hear Her?” a music video featuring Casting Crowns, a Christian rock band.  John Hall, a singer for that group, wrote that song, which contains these words that seem to reflect the profile of a young lady who could fall prey to a sex trafficker:  

“She is running / A hundred miles an hour in the wrong direction / She is trying but the canyon's ever widening / In the depths of her cold heart / So she sets out on another misadventure just to find / She's another two years older / And she's three more steps behind.”

(Chorus): “Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see? / Or does anybody even know she's going down today? / Under the shadow of our steeple / With all the lost and lonely people / Searching for the hope that's tucked away in you and me / Does anybody hear her? Can anybody see?

“She is yearning for shelter and affection / That she never found at home / She is searching for a hero to ride in / To ride in and save the day / And in walks her prince charming / And he knows just what to say / Momentary lapse of reason / And she gives herself away.

“If judgment looms under every steeple / If lofty glances from lofty people / Can't see past her scarlet letter / And we've never even met her. . . . Under the shadow of our steeple / With all the lost and lonely people / Searching for the hope that's tucked away in you and me / Does anybody hear her? Does anybody see? / She is running a hundred miles an hour / In the wrong direction.”

Michele Dudley stands at a table with items offered for sale by Fashion & Compassion, her non-profit organization.

Michele Dudley of Charlotte spoke to attendees. She founded Fashion & Compassion (www.fashionandcompassion.com) with Celeste Bundy in 2012 after working with “indigenous artisans” for several years. The group “connects caring consumers with vulnerable women artisans to bring dignity through economic opportunity.”

“It is a business,” Dudley said about sex trafficking, which she described as 32- billion-dollar-a-year business based on “commercial sexual exploitation.” She noted that the term “human trafficking” is no different from the word “prostitution.”


Antonia "Neet" Childs was scheduled to speak at the meeting, but couldn’t attend. She sent a recently released video that told about her life and business, Neet’s Sweets (www.neetssweets.com). 


 

Childs dreamed of having her own bakery. Her Aunt Koona owned a catering business, and Childs loved to watch her passion for making dishes. Childs’ dreams for owning a bakery faded after she fell victim to a life of human trafficking. She was manipulated by a handsome 38-year-old man, a well-dressed graduate of a North Carolina college, she said.  

“I was exploited before I was trafficked,” she said. “It’s not just something [that happens] overseas.”

A male friend challenged her to market her mind instead of her body.

“It was through the kindness and support of a friend that I began a cake decorating class,” she said.

She funneled this passion into a business idea and became “a baking entrepreneur in 2008 in the Queen City, better known as Charlotte, N.C.”

“Neet's Sweets has become more than just a business to me though,” she says on her website. “It's a movement – a movement to save other young women from a life of commercial sexual exploitation and trafficking. Proceeds from Neet's Sweets, Inc. help to provide support to women survivors, including counseling, housing referrals, and mentoring. We also offer employment as a way to help our women gain work skills in order to begin their own journey towards personal growth, empowerment, and success.”

Jillian Mourning (right) talks with Michele Dudley during the seminar. 

Jillian Mourning, a 26-year-old Charlotte resident and a survivor of human trafficking, addressed the audience. She grew up in a broken home, but she excelled in school – she was also a cheerleader – and went to college to prove herself.  

She said she was a 19-year-old student at UNC-Charlotte and a part-time model when her agent, a man she had come to see as a father figure, and two other men raped her one night. They recorded the attack. The next morning, the agent told Mourning he would publish the video online if she reported what had happened.

“It is literally slavery without bars and chains,” Mourning said of sex trafficking.  

She was afraid her friends and family would see the video and that some people would think she brought the rape upon herself. Mourning remained silent. Over the next six months, she entered the arena of sexual servitude.

“Men in business suits would pay to sleep with a 19-year-old,” she said.

The agent raped her many times and recorded the ordeals. Mourning didn’t know it, but he sold the videos online. Six years ago she was trafficked from Charlotte to several states, she noted. 

After her agent was convicted of criminal charges, Mourning was freed from that bondage. She graduated from college after majoring in “international studies and German.” She minored in “the Holocaust, genocide and human rights” and spent some time in Germany during her studies.

As a survivor of human trafficking, Mourning started a nonprofit group in Charlotte called All We Want Is LOVE, which helps victims; see www.AllWeWantIsLove.org for information. 

“Today, I have the most amazing friends and church family,” she said. “From what I’ve been through, I’ve been able to save a lot of girls.”
Michele Dudley (left) and Jillian Mourning


Mourning walked across the stage to join Michele Dudley for an interview. The two sat and talked as a videographer recorded their conversation.   

“When people are in bad situations, they feel there is no way out,” Mourning said.

She talked about her group, All We Want Is LOVE.

“We do a lot of educating in high schools and colleges,” she said. She noted that age 13 is the average entry age for a girl who is trafficked. “[That’s the age] you think the world is flowers and rainbows.”

She said health care workers and people who work at gas stations and truck stops and those who enter homes (such as cable TV technicians) as part of their work need to report signs of sex trafficking.

Mourning said money given to young women involved in trafficking may not be “going to the girls.”

“She gives the money to someone who’ll beat the crap out of her if she doesn’t,” Mourning said. “All you need is one thing that is exploitable to become a victim. If you trust the wrong person, you can be exploited. You can’t look at somebody and say, ‘She’s the typical girl.’”

She said that sex traffickers, “exploiters,” are trained to find girls who can be manipulated.

“They are business men trained to pick up on girls’ vulnerabilities,” Mourning said.

Seventy percent of pornography is tied into sex trafficking, she noted.

Some people may think that women are involved in prostitution because they wish to be, Mourning said, but she added that unseen pressures may have forced many women into lifestyles they normally wouldn’t have chosen.

“Perception is not always reality,” she said.

She wants to help other sex trafficking victims, she says.

“I want to give them hope; all they want is love,” she said. “We can change the world one girl at a time. There is that light at the end of the tunnel. You will get through it. It doesn’t have to be my life forever. You feel like there is no way out. They need to see those who do make it out.”

As far as what the public can do to help victims of sex trafficking, Mourning suggested the following:
1.          Change the wrong mindset that “she [a sex trafficking victim] wants to be there.”
2.          Become educated about the problem and be willing to talk to people in your communities.
3.          Get involved with funding the cause – for example: selling crafts and donating funds.
4.          Educate others.
5.          Take time to do something about sex trafficking.



Emily Fitchpatrick, 36, founder of an Asheville-based nonprofit organization called On Eagles Wings Ministries (www.oewm.net) spoke next. (She also is involved with Rahab’s Hope, Youth4Abolition and Fields of Hope ministries.)

Fitchpatrick, originally from West Virginia, said that God “got a hold” of her when she was 22 years of age and saved her from a life of drugs and alcohol. She went to work for Billy Graham Ministries, but in 2008, she “felt called” to found On Eagles Wings in order to help girls working at strip clubs.

“We started going to strip clubs,” she said. “We saw some minors and some girls [that appeared to be] under pimp control.”

She and her helpers took gift bags to the girls.

“We tried to share hope with them,” she said.

This work opened Fitchpatrick’s eyes to the sex trafficking world. She said her previous image of a prostitute was “a 30-year-old addicted to meth [methamphetamine].” She learned that the average age of girls going into prostitution was 13.

“Some people said, ‘We don’t have that problem in N.C.’” she noted, adding that those people were wrong.

Fitchpatrick, who majored in hotel management in college and once worked as a wedding planner, said one of her favorite quotations is this: “Visionaries without perseverance are only dreamers.”

“I have perseverance,” she said.  

She discovered that few agencies were helping get girls out of sex trafficking. She said that N.C. has lots of “runaway shelters” but not many groups focusing on sex trafficking. She indicated that some people tend to label sex-in-exchange-for-something as “survival sex” when it involves a young girl “trying to make it through the day.” A young person practicing “survival sex” may be labeled a “delinquent,” but Fitchpatrick indicated that such behavior often falls under the sex trafficking umbrella. She said that one lady who worked with DSS told her, “I don’t think it’s our issue.”

With the help of many people, Fitchpatrick started the Hope House shelter in Asheville in 2009. The first girl to come there was 14 at the time and had been trafficked since she was 12. That girl is now in college on a full scholarship.

“One hundred percent of our girls have PTSD [post traumatic stress disorder],” Fitchpatrick said. “They’ve had multiple traumas . . . much to deal with. . . . The bulk of the girls we’ve worked with in five years have been runaways.”  

Fitchpatrick said this problem “is happening everywhere.” She referred to a website that listed over 230 ads that could be interpreted as ads involving sex trafficking in the Fayetteville, N.C., area (not far from Pinehurst, N.C.).

“Every city has hundreds of ads,” she said. “It’s huge. The Internet is a huge tool in trafficking.”

Fitchpatrick said the misconceptions about prostitution must be changed in order to get the public involved.

“They may look like they want to be there – they don’t,” she said. “Prostitution is not a choice. Circumstances of life land them there. I want to challenge you about the way you look at prostitution. The level of guilt and shame these girls carry is so heavy, so hard. We need to keep these issues in your prayers and in the forefront.”

Fitchpatrick said that sex trafficking is “everybody’s issue” and that we “can’t keep pawning these kids off.”

“God has a heart for injustice, and he calls us for this,” she said.

Fitchpatrick praised the work done by Changing Destinies, which hopes someday to open a safe house in Moore County, N.C.

“It’s hard work,” she said. “Across the USA, we’re scrambling for beds. It’s so hard to find nice places that can keep them [victims of sex trafficking].”

“God sent loving people to help me,” she said. “I want the same thing for Changing Destinies. . . . Every two seconds somewhere in the world, a child is sold. . . . I want to see if y’all step up. We [in N.C.] are constantly in the top ten states, as far as calls to the national hotline.”

Calls can be made to the National Human Trafficking Hotline at 1-888-373-7888 or Text to BeFree (233733).

“We need better protections in the laws for children,” Fitchpatrick said. “We have to think of it ‘one life at a time.’ Don’t leave here discouraged or overwhelmed. . . . Leave here filled with hope. There is something you can do.”

Chris Hrabosky, senior pastor of Seven Lakes Baptist Church, prayed at the close of the meeting: “It’s a sin issue . . . happening right here in our backyard,” he prayed. “God . . . help us be doers of the Word and not hearers, only. . . . Help us not to forget about what we’ve heard about. . . . Help us to do something. . . . Lord, I thank you so much for the opportunity to hear from these ladies. . . . in Jesus’ name, amen.”

Vendor participants in the “Break Every Chain” event manned tables set up in the lobby of Owens Auditorium. Attendees lingered to talk with program participants and vendors.

The “Break Every Chain” program listed “Supporting Information / Vendor Participants as follows”:  

1000 Shillings, Durham NC, Rebecca Calderara, www.1000shillings.com.

All We Want Is LOVE (Liberation of Victims Everywhere), Charlotte NC, Jillian Mourning, www.AllWeWantIsLove.org.
Pictured are Jillian Mourning (left) and Ashley Harkrader of All We Want Is LOVE. Harkrader is Mourning's organizational partner. Harkrader majored in business administration and minored in public relations and marketing. 


Changing Destinies, Moore County NC, www.ChangingDestinies.org.

Fashion & Compassion, Charlotte NC, Michele Dudley, www.fashionandcompassion.com.

Justice Ministries, Charlotte NC, Mark Blackwell, www.justice-ministries.org.


Neet’s Sweets, Charlotte NC, Antonia “Neet” Childs, www.neetssweets.com.

On Eagles Wings Ministries & Hope House Shelter, Asheville NC, Emily Fitchpatrick, www.oewm.net and www.hopehousenc.com.

Partners Against Trafficking Humans in NC (PATH), Raleigh NC, Pat Witt, www.pathnconline.wordpress.com.

Rise Up Ministries, Charlotte NC, Aimee Johnson, www.riseup52.com.

The Defender Foundation/NC Chapter, Fayetteville NC, Eric Wong, www.ncdefender.org.

Transforming Hope Ministries & Emma’s Home, Durham NC, Abbi Tenaglia, www.transforminghopeministries.org.


Financial sponsors for the Break Every Chain event included Rebecca Calderara, Far Ridgeline Engagements, Matt and Paige Harris, Kym Nixon, Seven Lakes Baptist Church, Sandhills Realty, and Stewart Construction & Development. 

“You may choose to look the other way, but you can never say again that you did not know.” –William Wilberforce, leading 19th century abolitionist.